Then along came this guy. He wasn't a bad guy. It went something like this-- "Hey, you're cute-- give me your phone #." Me-- "No."
But I eventually caved. Then it became-- "Wow- you're funny too, and a little weird, but fun to hang out with. Want to be my girlfriend?" Me-- "Okay, but fair warning, I'm not as slutty as most guys would hope, so... just saying."
As one might expect, the fun hanging-out soon degenerated into attempts to paw me, slobber all over me, make me account for every second of my time, and to report my whereabouts & daily activities. I didn't let my parents or teachers control me, and I sure wasn't about to let this joker-- or any guy for that matter. ~See ya.~
Then along came this one. Same thing-- "Hey! Cute, funny, fun, rowdy-- be my girlfriend!"
I wound-up going to the same lengths to avoid this one too eventually-- climbing trees, hiding in bushes, scaling small buildings... this was before cellphones, so all the ditching was pretty old-school. There were also frequent attempts at pawing and slobbering, which were not appreciated.
Then along came Dan. Look how young and cute we were.
When we first met I was wearing my fetching York Steak House uniform, that looked basically like the square-necked one here, but burnt orange and harvest gold. How could he resist?
We were sharing an apartment with some people by this time, and he worked 3rd shift. When he got home he'd hang out with me while I drew stuff, or tormented him by knocking the cereal spoon away from his mouth just before it got there. We spent a lot of time together, and I had no idea he too, had pawing and slobbering on his mind, until one night we just suddenly started making-out like crazy.
Turns out, we'd both had big crushes on each other for months. We've been together ever since. When people ask how long, I can never remember, so now I just say-- "the whole time", since I was 19.
I lucked-out. Most of the women I know either aren't, or weren't happy with the guy they first picked.
It's as if the Universe plunked Dan down in front of me and said, "Here-- You need THIS one. He'll do your bidding, because you need to learn to not abuse your power, and to become generous from his example."
One key though gals-- any guy cats love this much has got to be a good one. (He's going to kill me for putting this pic up-- but look how adorable...)
~Makes googley eyes of love at him~